A Grounded Response to Abuse
Remember – small acts of kindness can be more powerful than big systems!
I fear our obsession with these cases are distracting us away from the people right in front of us who need our help. We have this crazy spite thing inside of us that allows us to get some weird sense of satisfaction at the idea of taking down those we don’t relate to.
When it comes to abuse, we often credit certain groups of people to be the source of blame – socially disadvantaged, ethnic groups, the government… but we really do seem to LOVE it when it involves big names or personalities. Blaming others makes us feel better about ourselves.
Abusers exist everywhere – it isn’t an elite problem, a poor person problem, or a race problem – it is a people problem. Bad people exist everywhere. However, the more power a person has, the more control and manipulation they can hold over others. You do not have to be wealthy to hold power over someone.
Here is a thought about accountability: When we diminish or write off the needs of people right in front of us we are THE SAME as all the people who have been complacent in the high-profile cases we love to talk about.
Here is the risk: Our own stats according to It’s not OK Campaign show 24% of women, 6% of men, 20% of girls, 9% of boys reported experiencing some kind of sexual abuse. Keep in mind, sexual abuse often goes unreported and the delicate, sensitive nature of the cases along with the attached stress (and sadly perceived shame) means that many cases will never even reach the court system.
Small acts of kindness make a HUGE difference.
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